In Each Other's Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them - Paperback

by Stan Tatkin (Author), Lin Chen (Illustrator)

Break the Cycle: A Comprehensive Guide to Overcome Chronic Relationship Struggles

"This book is a revolution. It has the power to transform your relationship and your life."--Terrence Real, New York Times bestselling author of Us and founder of the Relational Life Institute

Few things are more frustrating than repeating the same fight with your partner. Playing out the same disagreement about money, parenting, sex, or household chores may leave you exhausted and cut off from the person you want to feel close to. While conflict in any relationship is inevitable, healing is possible. With In Each Other's Care, Stan Tatkin shares a hands-on repair manual that will help you discover how arguments get triggered, why they keep happening, and what you can do to get better at communicating what you want without the drama.

Drawing on his vast experience as a couples therapist, Tatkin uses the concept of secure functioning--a two-person psychological system of teamwork, full collaboration, and cooperation based on fairness, justice, and mutual sensitivity. This form of unionizing is "takes time to learn," Tatkin says. "And still, the rewards are awesome and make the effort worthwhile. Secure functioning benefits you, your partner, your family, your friends, everything, and everyone."

Throughout In Each Other's Care, Tatkin offers targeted lessons, sample dialogues, and heartfelt wisdom. Through this life-changing practice, you will be able to:

- Identify the source of unhappiness in your relationship
- Learn techniques for preventing problems before they occur
- Heal the emotional wounds of the past
- Transform conflict and struggle into win-win outcomes
- Renew broken connections and return to intimacy

Whether you've been in a relationship for years or are just beginning the journey, In Each Other's Care is a wonderfully supportive guide that will show you how to work through even the most contentious topics with compassion and respect.

Author Biography

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a clinician, researcher, teacher, and developer of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy(R) (PACT). He has a clinical practice in Calabasas, California, and with his wife, Dr. Tracey Tatkin, cofounded the PACT Institute for the purpose of training other psychotherapists to use this method in their clinical practices.